I want my husband and I to truly understsnd each other I truly lovr my husbandI hope he knows that I tell him every chance I get!

I've read through the instructions multiple times, read discussion posts, and I'm struggling to get a visual. I understand the concept of the challenge, but I don't know what to list. Here's where a visual example would be most helpful.

ive been harsh to my family. Holding to a high standard for house things because i want them to improve and strive hard. Instead ive pushed my wife away and showed with my mouth shes less important. i am very wrong and in need of forgiveness.

I am just starting this tomorrow and I am praying this works and that I can get my marriage back on track. I love my husband and want to fix things more than anything

we had plan to go have sex i got a text from a girl i was talking to but blew off after Candise start to rekindle us she went through my phone and saw where i said i wanted in her i didn't blow up though i just told her if she want our family i stop.

Today is Valentines Day! A day of extraordinary Love ❤️ So I have planned to take my wife on nostalgic date! In a way I want it to be similar to Our Very First Date. I hope she truly enjoys this! 2/14/24

my wife tells me everything I do is to get sex. so we have not had sex in months. I have lo be willing to look at that and see what is my part.

going through the motions and trying to make it work, after 25 years our marriage is a te lowest point. I am convinced that she is done and doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore.

what does it mean to add margin. not clear for me

this has been the single hardest thing but most rewarding things I've done. it has really shown me at my focus has been and should be. I feel God moving through me and making me better

I learn to calm myself down and talk to her in a more romantic way which She Likes and she open up to me.

wife dont see why im upset she couldnt even have let me know her ex boyfriend was at her parents house for 3-4 hours. but claims because when i asked who was there she felt that he didnt need to be mentioned being him not present when asked

day 6 and still no anser from her the only thing i het is accept my dession that i want to devorce... i saw her face shw dose not want to it seems that her famely is pushing her for the devorce i wil change my ways God is my only hope now

a constant online on facebook

so does it happend that social media stops being a problem in a relationship. fir instance your spouse is to busy to reply but when you go on facebook,they are online rather than replying to you?

my wife had to explain this a little better for me. but realized that ive already been doing this and disnt evwn know.

im struggling with my own inner demons. all of my past trauma has really caused issues with us. im trying to overlook the pain ive been through and to trust my husband fully. its hard to handle.

Before starting this dare, my husband and I decided to make Sunday afternoons our own. Also, early on we learned our love language. These two things along with keeping God center is what has helped us most .

not sure about the wrong motivation list . what is it? not understanding clearly. someone please help

My wife is completely turned off to me. We did a 90day separation and were supposed to continue counseling during that time. We only has one session where she expressed a desire for a legal separation.

i need god in my life note than ever. ive lied to my husband and hurt him. i need to not lie to him again😔

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I feel like Satan hit our marriage hard once we started this dare. my resolve is to keep goong and pray daily for my spouse.

Today was good, Day 6 dare was kind of hard

my wife is not wanting to do anything and this dare is not working no matter what I do I am in the wrong and a bad guy anything I do does not matter with her

i am having trouble with Day 6.

your not alone

i don't really know what day 6 is asking about. any explanation?

Day Six was okey but hard

today i dound out my wife has a credit card hidden from me. i spike to herbfamily and then shocked. i want to confront her as she keeps pressuring me for money.i revert back to gods word thatbsays whats hidden in the dark shall be revealed in light

my wife behaves in a manner where she doesnt care and blames me for how my family choosses to stay away from us yet they are old and are tired of her fairy tales as she always puts me down.throughout this i still perservere to make my marriage work

he does not show me the affection i want.we do make love its amazing untill it done, its like he has a wall up and he has anger that he cant let go.havent hered i love you for a month.no sleep in same bed im desperate to restore our relationship.

feel so horrible for the pain in caused.i wasted yearsnot loving him the way he deserves.im in love now more than i ever have been he is everything to me im so sad don't know what to do he talks to me then does not

i have totally changed in the past 2 month's i stopped drinking stopped my pain meds im a whole new person.i did hurt him and he does not trust me we have 4 kids ,together for 21 years.

Day 6 is a tough one for me... When he talks to me like one of his colleagues, instead of with love and kindness, my overthinking makes me irritable and upset

I let small things trigger me that remind me of his cheating. I feel so used and betrayed. I found that my husband was cheating our entire relationship & marriage. How do I know what was real between us? How do I get thru the hurt.

Hi everyone.. I need help with this dare as I'm not really understanding what needs to be done. TIA

ive done literally everything in my power theres people all over playing for my marriage. and still he wants out

ok idk how many ppl on her actually listens and has a connection with god but my name is dakota and my wife autumn is pretty well set on leaving me

ok idk how many ppl on her actually listens and has a connection with god but my name is dakota and my wife autumn is pretty well set leaving me

I often catch myself wondering if she's actually doing this (she says yes) or just going through the motions and not actually doing it letter for letter. I know if I focus on that I lose focus on my dares and it becomes a distracting. Pray for me

It's day 6 my spouse is not soften his heart and is not forgiving me. I have tried sending him verses, beautiful and lovely massages and other gifts but he keeps ignoring me

said nothing in him wants to fix this. i know the other woman and other people are in his head. God give me strength and trust and patience that youre at work

day 6 hes talking to me so i guess thats a start. still says marriage is over. but im letting God have everything. please God help me

hes talking to me. not much but some. ive realized when i try to talk about is it pushes him away so i have just been staying quiet and working on me. please God help

so ive decided that when i try to yalk to him i push him away. ive been quiet only talking to him when he talks to me but being kind and slow to anger. God please give me the strength and peace

i really needed to hear this today

I can have some iritation when i think things to do in the house are obvious and i can say it differently. this is one of 3thr things she dont like so a realy need to. i feel very lonely. she is so cold. i am lost, pray for me need peace and strength

Day 6: I work from home in a hectic nuclear job. Work days I tend to fit him in where convenient. This is a good reminder to put him before my job, even if it means scheduling some time for him only, without work interruptions.

The 3 things my spouse listed as annoying on Day 5 is precisely why I am in this situation in the first place. Because of zero trust is why I found out about the friends and financial issues. I will have to take a day break before I take on Day 6.

all these days are so hard, she wont even talk to me i trybto send flowers and cards emails everything im just so broken indont know what to do.

feel like I totally failed the sixth dare. I'm going to go about it again today. I won't give up

we have been remodeling and lately ive been harping so much for my husband to work on it and hes burnt out. today i suggested we take all tools out of the house to the garage and dont even think about any more remodeling till after holiday's

I think this dare should be worded differently. like specifically, what is it asking? is this solely up to interpretation? two lists.. one for areas where I need to add margin... another for wrong motivations?

I dont understand what is meant by adding margin. I get it that he needs space to do his own thing and that I need give him that space, but how do I adjust my margins?

I suffer from fibermialga and am often irritable due to pain and I'm still learning about this condition so now that i know why I'm irritable I'm hoping he is patient with me.

I find most of these fairly easy as she never responds unless its about the sale of the house as in her eyes it's all over even though we have only been separated two months. it's so sad

I find it very easy to do what is asked in these things most times but sometimes it is impossible as we are totally separated and all she ever replays is about the sale of the house now and wants nothing to do with us as in her eyes it's all over..

I'm not sure I understand what exactly it is to "add margin". Please explain.

i will admit i was irritated that my wife filed for divorce and requested to ban me completely out of her life. But know she didnit in retaliation to my filing that she avoided and didnt know i requested counciling for us and didnt ban her at all.

I admit I almost let myself get the best of me today then I had to take a minute before responding

I need to spend more time on weekends doing the things my wife enjoys with her. I was down for so long, I neglected doing the things she wanted to do with me.

I feel like I failed this one. I was grabbing things on my way out of town. not thinking it was by her job until she asked why I was there. I called her and asked what was wrong. she got snappy. I felt myself getting upset and just said ok.

add margin to my schedule on weekends

love dare #6, I don't understand it. could someone give me a better explanation?

forgive and let go of resentment for abandoning me and our children, forgive my husband for having a continued affair, forgive him for his selfishness, drugs, and emotional abuse..

This is very hard. My fiance spend most of his time on his phone. The online chats and all the other things that comes with that. It's heart breaking to know that he has lost interest in me and our relationship because of the online things.

I have been very selfish with my time the considering how she feels about me slacking is not spending as much time and energy focusing on her

I have quite a few margins that I need to work on in order to improve my thinking my behavior and my word I am believing and I will change and be transformed into a better man

we don't really understand this one

This is tough. We are separated and have little to no conversation. I need to be slow to anger, let go of justified/unjustified resentments, I need to stop think selfishly. I don't know how to share this with my wife. I feel stuck on this step...

I practically did this one last night, and got in response laughed at because I have supposedly started to late and she has no spark for our marriage anymore, but she wants to stay together for the sake of our children and co parent.

I'm so broken down my husband finally packed his bag and left my kids are so heart broken and it hurts me to see them like that I'm not sure if he went with the other woman or just with some friends im having a hard time

On my second go round and I'm still failing I wish I could get over the hurt. The years of lies make it impossible for me to move forward in a healthy way. I can't continue to build a life with someone who doesn't see the value in honesty.

this one is for tomorrow, but would it be possible to get a little more clarification on it, as it's kind of confusing.

I dont want to lose my husband. he wants us to live together even if were separated for the kids i dont think my heart can handle that. and watching him text and be on the phone with the other woman I have been praying to god to restore my marriage.

I can only focus on God

With tough times, like today, i tend to verbalized my hurting, by confrontation. Today chosen, instead the healing for my hart, to be giving something to my wife, saying i care. Thank you Lord for helping me! ❤️

did well except for one issue, and it set off hubby... BUT he apologized to ME about 30 min later, saying he had no reason to get offended just because I responded against him over something silly. maybe a small step forward??

today is hard, not to do, but to really think about because I don't feel like I have any "motivations". I do know I need to slow down when I talk so that I don't come across any wrongly excited or offended of things my husband suggests.

My husband just told me he wants a divorce

Today I closed down my salon and I did pack out our clothes and cleaned everything and I got rid of all the old things. I up make up on and cooked food I even took his food for him and i washed the dishes all by myself

his complaining over super small things like the dishes not being done. i need to just do those dishes( or other things) and understand he works hard at work so i need to at least work hard on home so home can be his place of comfort

im kinda confused about this one. do we just write down what we need to fix?

This day was very hard. It was a milestone. Never thought I would have had to experience what I experienced today. I was tested and tried. Embarrassed beyond measure. But God got me through and it worked out by God's grace and his love.

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validation and approval of man. satisfying the flesh

today I did great no problems at all!! thank you Jesus!!

i offered to go to her dr appointment with her on the 7th

yesterday I picked my wife up from work and called in sick to my job then stayed there with her the whole time I wouldnt of done this in the past. however for today's challenge I will be aware of where I can have more understanding

not sure what this dare means

the only problem I really have is I do not get encouragement mor does he compliment me or touch me as much as he used to. I'm probably being selfish. I accuse him of having an affair. he says he isnt... what do I do?

He doesn't work on the weekends or pay attention to computer or cell, to pay attention to me. I feel he does dedicates time to me. I stopped working late hours or bringing work home. I don't hang out with my friends and his time.

I need to send less time on my devices and more time focusing on my spouse and our family. I know I need to spend less time trying to beat my siblings in the game of life, I need to let go of the resentment I have towards my father.

This is hard since I am in an abusive relationship.

I'm not understanding this dare? can anyone give me examples or margarines and wrong motivators

we had a conversation about sex and the lack of. she spoke her mind and I saw ways my attitude needs to approve. I told her I love her and we did not fight.

I stopped on this day several days ago and tried to move forward without success. Has anyone gone back and restarted days to actually complete them? If so, how did it go?

Well I failed this one. But will try to do it later. It just hurts. It really hurts.

How do you continue to do these dares when all you feel is rejection and being lied to?

i need to stay calm and not react so quickly and aggressively. i need to put my phone down and focus.

I get so busy with my job that I neglect my husband. I'm working to spend time with him.

what I need to change is being on my phone all the time and pay more attention to him when we are spending time together! not keeping on at him so much not bringing things up that happened along time ago, leaving what's in the past in the past

more about Christ in all areas,more encouraging his, walk less criticizing less about my pain more about his more about US. less about me less about tomorrow more about now

need to give her time to be a girl for her self. I'm selfish for allowing myself to want all her time.

it was extremely difficult, bite my tongue and say nothing, speak calmly and keep on maintaining a positive attitude and control my anger.

I could add margin to make an effort to spend time with him doing the things he like to do. My negative motivation is feeling the need to make him understand me and being mad at him when he doesn't.

I could add margin to game playing on my phone. I could also work on being slow to anger when my words are being twisted around to mean something I never intended.

- sikap cemburu - sikap menilai yg buruk - marah - emosi - labil

today was a tough one, had to reread the verse throghtout the day to remind me to stand firm. thank you for Grace my God.

Watch less TV and sit and talk more! maybe play games with him more than watching the tube during dinner.

Guess I could stop wanting to sit down and relax after work everyday while she cleans up anything.. after all, she works just as many hours as I do so I suppose I could help out. cook dinner from time to time.. share the load so to speak.

Not having a social network period be amazed how many people truly are not your friend and talking behind your back. Also your so busy looking at every else's life and not investing in your own.

I could add margin to receiving criticism and my negative motivation is wanting to be right. I always want him to see my side of things or appreciate my effort even when I fail at something.

social media work

I asked my husband to write down everything that has brought him to this decision to divorce and things that he felt i never addressed. He wrote 6 pages front and back worth of things and still have me 2 more the next morning.

I can help out more around the house while working from home. I feel like an idiot for not seeing it before it got this far.

I need to put my phone away when I'm at home and need to do more activities with my wife. I need to find ways to try and not let my anger get the best of me.

So this is my third time doing the love dare. I really couldn't find a reason to stop working on my marriage. I did become irritated today. God bless my wife. She likes to start cleaning the house at 10pm.

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today is the day i realized how much time I spend on my phone and not with my family doing the little things that actually make a family a family. my phone will be put aside a lot more now and my wife and kids are going to be put first .

today has been okay... he is calling me baby again and wanting to hold me while we sleep.

today hit hard. there was infidelity in our marriage and it wasn't hid very well. I knew quickly my spouse was constantly calling texting and snapping someone else. I wanted my spouse to feel that pain

I try I can honestly say I gave it my best I can't do it anymore my own son is telling me about staying over at the boyfriend's house and he's only six the only thing I can do now work on myself and keep God in my life

I dunno how to do this

Done. went very well today

......I think she came only cause it was our Apostle that invited us. Either way it was good sharing dinner with her and serving her. I treated her and our daughters. they enjoyed it. Thankful for the small step.

Today was a little tense, since im easily irritated. Started off not speaking to each other before church. Her reiterating that she wants a divorce. then our Apostle invited us out for dinner.....

I need to make the Lord and his kingdom my priority. Mark 10:29!. I love my wife but its time I fully seek God! Im praying for a turnaround but thats no longer my main goal. will continue the challenge cause I feel God told me too.

I need to make more time in Prayer and Readinf my word. my concern with how people view me, I need to release unto the Lord. Trying to hold a reputation is just Pride which I need to also release unto the Lord.

Margin: a permissible difference; allowing some freedom to move within limits. Negative motivation: is the other side of the coin. This occurs when an action is taken to avoid experiencing pain or failure

i do not understand this 1 100% help plz

This was so hard. Lots of tears today! And a few breakthroughs in my own part.

My dare for today is not over but if. Does it mean making time for your spouse. We aren't married but I'm doing this for me and for him. I have put God on the second shelf. And since starting this book I've come closer to God.

I found this app after I got the pics online of the dares. on day 6 of this. its hard, really hard. my wife continues to say she doesn't want to be with me. so I'm trying this and trusting God to help me.

today was rough. she stated she wouldn't come home until I get my custody case over with. she did however say she wants to come talk this eve. and mentioned us making love. im still guarded because I want to succeed and not rush this.

I need to be more mindful of allowing Gods work and will to be done instead of sometimes being inpatient and even doubting Gods timing

I need to be mindful of noticing my irritation with my wife and others sometimes and replace it with love

I need to spend less time on social media, pleasing everyone, my music, my fitness, and more time with my wife and kids and on Gods word.

i need to be more open to new adventure and experiences and be willing to try new things.

Scheduling time with my husband that doesn't involve anything or anyone else. it's hard with me working FT & being a FT college student.

I've procrastinated so much about remodeling the house. So last night I preped the living room and today painting it. I spent way to much time on TV and social media. So I deleted all social media.

I heard the same from my wife. I held onto "with God all things are possible " and humbled myself and prayed. Hard to do, but God is softening her heart and things are changing in her (and me). its not overnight (it took 6 months), but its worth it.

spend less time on my phone or watching TV. its hard though we both work different shifts and rarely ever see each other..

well today was an epic fail. I blew up on him with all the anger iv been holding. he claims to also be doing this book however his actions don't show it. I still haven't gotten a responce from day 5.

it is hard sometimes to change, when i can't see what needs changing. But change is what is needed. i will be less selfish, and listen to her more. there maybe others we'll see.

I need to be more intentional with my time at home. insist on eyeball time and not as much shoulder time in front of the tv

I need to stop being such a peacekeeper and people pleaser in the home, I need to delve more into my word and relationship with Jesus to become a better wife.

I need to spend less time on my phone and more time effectively working and therefore spending more time with my family and dog. I should be more confident with the way I look and not waste too much time on makeup that doesn't make me happy anyway.

I need more than 250 characters to do this. 🙄 Anyway, He knows what I TRIED to post.

i need to not get stressed out too easily. i need to let go of my past and remember to live in the present and not look back but move forward. i need to make time for my husband and my animals and cleaning more even if i am tired because so is he.

be more mature to my wife,make quality time for her help her out more around the house be a peaceful man when I awake in the morning meet her needs before my own

I need to put my self together. And I need a schedule for my day. when I work when I clean and cook and time for sports. To keep my energy together I need schedule. I feel empty right now. I'm trying to do everything at the time. Time management!!!

make more time for quality time with james. help him more and not be so focused on just our physical relationship.

My wife says our marriage is over. My changes are too late. I can't fix this.