The Lovedare

28 - Love makes sacrifices
1 John 3 vs 16 : By this we know love, because he laid down his life for us. and we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.

What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.

 

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So much of her stress that she pointed out could have been mitigated if I had sacrificed just a little of my time and effort. Selfish me didn't see that, but now I do and I will use my time to serve her.



emotional support by which i did not gave her fully



Challenging yet fighting



the trouble is that I don't even know where my wife took the children to. she has refused to tell me their whereabouts. it's sad really and painful.



I feel like i don't know what to do for this one. I just can't do much.

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Think of something you know they need or been harping about that would make them happy and go the distance to make it happen if applicable. Prayer to God so he may guide you on what that is.


I feel like i don't know what to do for this one

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Prayer is always the go to when we don't have the answers.


Alot of my wife stress comes from me having to start all over again getting my licenses and permit . I keep failing my permit test and came so close she tired of doing all the driving and I have to find rides when she have to handle her business

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Try to slow down and pray more for guidance. I hope that you have success. Let God guide you and your wife and don't despise small beginnings.


ok I need guidance. I work. I clean. I cook. I buy him stuff and run all the errands. he coaches at night and I pick up our daughter at the field when I get off... not sure what I can sacrifice??

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Pray for your spouse it can be as simple as time in the middle of your busy day.


Since my wife moved out, i've tried to help out where i can. Even though she moved out, i still love and care for her, and i nees her to be ok, hence me helping out where possible.. In meantime will pray to God in faith.

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Amen!


I gave him his fantasy but he didn't get off... I know it's personal but I prayed God to help me give my body fully to my husband

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New experiences often have unreal expectations. Don't be so hard on yourself or him on you. Yall have to yes keep this one between yall lol.. no judgement btw.. but between the 2 of you kinda discuss what yall expect and try to communicate better with this also. I mean hey lol the bible does say whatever you do, do it like you doing it for God I guess. Just try to lighten up a little and yall just have fun being husband and wife in your area of love. Dont add pressure or expectations to it.


Throwing in the towel I deserve better and nobody deserves being cheated on and lied to. If we continue this marriage it will happen again because I would just be proving weaknesses by letting myself be treated like this.

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Thank you for your words of encouragement we had a bible study with our pastor today and he really opened my eyes. I need to stay the course and fight for my family pray and turn to HIS word. God wants us together and living for God.
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this 40 days isn't just about your spouse, it's also about what God is saying to you. I know for certain God goes not like divorce, he hates it. see what God has to say to YOU during the remainder of the 40 days. both of your hearts may change because of what God does in your life.
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You say you love her. Love is a gift from God...to love Unconditionally. It is also a VERB...you must DO LOVE! Honestly...for better or worse is what you said when you got married. you didn't say it was only on the condition that she does too. I know it hurts. I know its painful and uncomfortable. Pray to God for strength and to help you with that burden you're carrying.... but don't give up just because it's hard or it hurts. Did Christ give up on the Church all the many times people have done wrong? We are to love our spouse as Christ loves the Church. UNCONDITIONALLY. I hope this perspective helps.
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I have prayed I've given her so many chances to be honest and she has lied at every turn I need to love myself and admit I can't keep being hurt by the woman I love
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Think of what made you start this process, try to sit down and talk to your mate. You are only 12 days away from completing. Also this is about changing us ourselves.. not them, with that being said please pray about it before you quit.
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God has a plan for me and I know it doesn't involve being worried daily about my spouses next deceitful action.


Covid has affected my fiancee's business. I took the initiative to get in touch with one of his clients so he may make up for money lost.



praying that God will open a door to allow me to do this for my ex wife tomorrow. if not I will wait until he does and move on to the next one until then. please pray for me that God will open this door.

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something came up and I dropped everything to go to her aid and she wouldn't even let me in the house. the day just started though I guess praying for another chance before the sunsets.


I keep having flashbacks of his affair this makes it hard for me to really put my heart in things but I gave him a full back massage because he couldn't sleep. some days it takes all I have to keep loving him



Today was a good day. My wife has been battling an illness which has her upa and down. today. I finally finished the backyard clean up. Walked the dogs and went and bought the ingredients for her to make chili she's been wanting for a while.

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She really wants to go back and finish her fashion deaign degree but owes money. Im going to contact the school to see what the balance is and try to pay it down for her.


I asked what my husband's buggest need was, and he never answered. So I pulled up the rest of the carpet in the house today while he has been out of town since Tuesday. It takes one thing off his plate when he comes home.