The Lovedare

27 - Love encourages
Psalm 25 vs 20 : Keep my soul, and deliver me; let me not be ashamed, for i put my trust in you.

Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.

 

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I expected her to handle her chores by herself, plus work and kids, while I have so much free time at home. Expecting her to get it all done consistently without help was wrong and unrealistic. That helped me get bitter towards her.



today has been a hard day. sometimes i feel like just giving but i know i can't. it's just fustrating when My husband can't SEE and understand where i'm coming from. i'm trying to trust in the Lord to help me through this



I will assure her of not persuing unrealistic expectations but by my undying support on her



he expects me to clean take care of newborn, our 6 year old, and manage to cook dinner and be well rested like i am only 1 person. all he wants to do is work pay bills and sleep.

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I am guilty of this attitude with my wife, and she also teaches on top of home life. A glaring double standard, especially with all the free time I have at home.


i am confused by this one because honestly i feel like i should have been the one to tell him he expects too much out of me. how do i remove unrealistic expectations when they are from him not me?



My wife left me for a married man with 3 small children... He is working construction work in our town and his wif is 1000km away... Must i tell his wife the truth? I love my wife and miss her and kids what must I do?

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This is one of those situations that you have to remember that what's done in the dark always comes to the light. God hates divorce. Not to mention we shouldn't return evil for evil, but bless enemies while leaving place for God's wrath. This is a moment where you should grow close to God while seeking his healing, wisdom, and help. I'm sorry you are going through this it hurts sad it sucks but if you love her pray for her. Also love your kids and be a better man for God and them at this time ok. Stay strong sir.


I do not feel this is an issue for us, at least not anymore. I now rarely ask him to keep up with as many of the little things that annoy me but not him. it is his home too and I know I have annoying quirks too.

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This sounds like you both found common grounds. It's a great start. Prayers ur way


I have trouble trying to find away to tell her im sorry for being a burden. She deals with having to take me around cause I loss my licenses and since it expired 9 years got to start permit again, and I keep failing every time I go.

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Stay focused and stay strong you can do this!


this luckily hasn't been an issue for us. HOWEVER, we're fighting more and more. I apparently tick him off more and more. Things looked better, bow they're super ugly 😭

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This is when you want to pray that God is the umpire of the situations in your home. Pray for your husband, pray for the communication. God can and does heal marriages.


Asked my wife for forgiveness for the explanation she felt were too much. Pray to God to show and guide me on his way, in appreciating my wife and not putting me needs first.

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He will just put him first and he will reveal.


I'm trying with this I have unrealistic expectations about what she needs to do to regain my trust. I need to truly forgive her and myself for mistakes we made in the past. I'm praying for us please pray for us.

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part of life is learning from mistakes and to forgive as God has and dies forgive us. Prayers
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1Corinthians 13:1 prayers up you guys do your best just try to make the goals and expectations humanly attainable. At the end the of the day you want to get results not more issues.. rooting for yall.


Getting discouraged. I mean, I am totally committed to her...but we aren't married anymore and she's in another relationship and seems serious. :(

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I know the feeling but keep going my friend! trust God. in his time not ours.


my exwife is asking me to stop doing the love dare. I think she is developing feelings for me again and it bothers her because of her boyfriend. should I stop? I'm now planning on it but I don't want to push her away either if I don't. help?

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Are you doing the dare for the relationship you have/had with her your ex. If so that can be confusing...but if you are preparing for the next God ordained relationship charge on.
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thank you for the encouragement. I was able to complete today's task when I didn't think she would give me a chance to. we had an interview with a new nanny today and we were able to talk for a while afterwards. overall it went well today.
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don't stop..if you feel God has moved you and your heart


my wife battles type 2 diabetes and I try my best to make sure she manages it alot better than she does. it's hard when I am 3 hours away fixing myself but I will be back later on 2day so I can be her rock and be able to manage it better



My expectations are for my husband to try to do better with money and saving,eat better so that we can enjoy a long life together, he can bind this first generation curse of diabetes he has developed. To take care of his, my, and our things.



I got rid of the unrealistic expectation of desiring praise and compliments. She doesnt feel she should have to praise me for anything and by expecting praise Im being insecure. Im done with trying to prove myself.



I asked if there were any unrealistic expectations. Ready to apologize and change. But, he said "No". I'm not sure if I don't or if he doesn't believe that I do. Either way, I'll keep a lookout for this issue.