The Lovedare

24 - Love vs. lust
1 John 2 vs 17 : And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of god abides forever.

End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed—today—and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.

 

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I got rid of the physical objects, and with an accountability partner, I am working on getting rid of digital objects of lust. I am grateful for a brother who has been here and has hard earned wisdom to help me in my struggle.



Everyday prayers will always remind me to end porn, masterbation, livestream, social media, worries and loss of romantic due to distraction of this world.



I struggle with knowing what to say when my husband goes to pornhub. he says he does it to teach me a lesson.I dont understand this behavior to hurt me this way. how can you say you love and respect me but do things to intentionally harm me.

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in my previous, uneditable reply, I pray for a change of his heart and I encourage you to do the same.
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love is a choice, not a feeling (like praising God is as I learned in 1997). i declared on the lust day, "The day has come!" to kick it out. I made it known God and my wife are my desire. Be patient with your husband but BE FIRM with him about how serious this is! I oray God will open his heart
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I think you should Pray for him and ask God To deal with his heart and to deliver him. the fact that he is doing this to you is totally not right and God is not pleased with his actions. God Bless You..


lmao loser



One thing my wife was getting mad at me about was that she wanted sex more than she was getting, She wants it at least 2 times a week, and she says she only gets it twice a month. Sometimes when I think she wants sex she don't

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to be honest I suck in bed an she doesn't want to say at least I get good dick from mine


I'm 15, and today marks day 30 of a lust, masturbation, and pornography lifestyle. I thank God for my freedom as without Him nothing is possible❤

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we all whores


Only love i know are for my wife. I pray to God, to help me, making God number one in my life. Helping me in being the father of my house as per His guidance. Thank you Lord!

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Well prayed amen!


I'm trying to put our infidelities behind us and move forward. It's extremely difficult somedays dealing with the pain. I'm not innocent either and know as broken hearted as I am she is and has been also. Forgiveness is harder than I ever thought.

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We forgive those, as God forgives us. Push forward and keep the Faith strong
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love trumps all. u can't love if you don't forgive. pray...search your heart. forgiveness is easier than u think if u truly love someone. God will help!
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I felt that, give it to God is the only advice I can give on that.


Well I do not necessarily withhold sex but I do not use it as a weapon. If you are in a relationship where you are physically, emotionally and verbally abused. I believe that is the last thing you should be worrying about.



Well I do not necessarily withhold sex but I do not use it as a weapon. If yih are in a relationship where you are physically, emotionally and verbally abused. I believe that is the last thing you should be worrying about.



my lust is for things that I can never afford in life. I need to spend more time with my wife and making memories together

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well said. I prayed this day of cutting off lust would come and it has.


I have very little issue with this. my spouse is constantly looking at others ans subscribe to snap stories that are explicitly and messaging others but when messaging someone led to an affair it destroyed me.

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I am praying for you and your spouse


my husband has this problem and says he knows it's wrong but keeps doing it and I can't take it anymore..idk if I should keep trying to save this marriage if I am miserable because of this problem. he says it's my fault every time

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Now the downside to my reply is, you have to take a look at your side as well. is there truth in what he's saying, See im not saying either way or placing blame but alot of Ladies get in the marriage or relationship and use sex/intimacy as a weapon or some form of punishment. The Word says that God will not withhold any good thing from us. What then gives anyone the right to withhold the goodness of pleasure and imtimacy in a marriage? In doing this we become God. If there is abuse physically mentally or infidelity you have a right to leave or withhold. But otherwise because of disagreement there shouldnt be withholding on either side.
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Its not your fault, if you arent with-holding from him. there is a void missing and for me it was a stronghold that I established super early. I always hung with the older guys and that led me into the demonic oppression of pornography and lust. He has to come to Jesus to fill that void and denounce it.


Lust of succeeding by worldly standards. Sexual lust (Pornography), People pleasing desire to be liked.



Unsure what to do here. I've prayed about it. Maybe the last for attention and affection? Being ok just knowing I am loved?



Lust of succeeding @ work and the money the money that comes with it. Will keep work during work hours only and spend more time with my spouse and family. Spending more time reading bible and with Christ.

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I have the same lust with work and money. Will stop picking up extra shifts to cover extra expenses and rely on God's promises to take care of my husband and I.


Watching entertainment these days is a minefield of lust. Even some so called Christian movies. Avoiding it all as much as I can!