The Lovedare

22 - Love is faithful
Hosea 2 vs 20 : I will betroth you to me in faithfulness, and you shall know the lord.

Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, 'I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.'

 

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I have been intently listening to her and heard her say she was out of coffee, so I bought more for her. A small gesture, but she didn't ask me to and I did it, along with a love note, knowing she won't return my love.



This early morning. She hugs me and say I love you and I response to her in a romantic hug and kiss her forhead and say I love you too..



she says her heart is closed and she does not love me that way. yet she gives mixing signals, there is a wall so thick and it is as if the enamy is blocking her from opening up, i sense fear and trust issues.

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Keep Praying and Reading the word day and night
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Keep praying and remove all distractions within your self. i have been there before. Woman will be melt in there heart with a True Man's care and perseverance


I'm really struggling with this one, hearing her tell me she loves me, without much effort beyond words. Need prayer for her victory in this area.



hi. I have been in the same position you are in. and let me tell you that there is nothing impossible for God. if you are willing and commit to doing this dare, also there is an audio book of stormi omartian on youtube for free.

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Also look for Kirk Cameron he has a YouTube channel and it's very good.


My fiance and I are not staying together. I've never been so happy with anyone. But he needs time to think about us. We were going to get married in 2 months. How can i fight for him if i dont see him every day? im at day 22 of this love dare

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I just feel he is pushing me and God away
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You fight through prayer and think of this time as consecration. Is the date still on? If so then yes it is consecration. With that being said prayer is how you fight, learn to bring your fiance before God often so that you may keep him safe from hindrances, delays, dangers, and strange women. He needs prayer and much as you do. With that being said continue to push through the challenge let it transform and renew your mind, push through and grow closer to the Living God as you make your prayers, petition, and read his word. Whatever opportunities you get to communicate remember to not be overly emotional but to state how you feel with a level head and clear mind. Pray for the clarity that you need to be able to get through every challenge and push through ok. Hope this helps.


No matter what i say or do my husband thinks im annoying or gets irritated with me.

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Definitely pray for yourself and your husband. Remember choose to love even if not returned. Remember, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.


I like this one alot as i do love her and know it deep down in. I can't tell her though as it offends her. I have told her quite often over the last two months so will have to wait a bit to say it again.

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Show it to her in actions. They speak louder than words. Towers, Candy, or a simple pedicure or manicure gift.


Initially I thought this would be easy as I love him with all my heart, but now reading this, thinking how he chose not to love me any more hurts soooo much. We always had a good marriage and due to my meds he has chosen not to love me.

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Hope you guys are ok.


I love her more than she knows, and when I tell her every day she seems like she tired of me saying it and other times she say it back like she really loves me



lately I feel like such a disappointment to him. I am trying so very hard to be a good wife, mom and employee, and he just doesn't see me. he says he does, but only when he wants to. his words are hurtful, amd onfeel like I just can't do enough.

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Pray that he sees you the way God sees you.
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Pray for him that God definitely touches his heart, and allows yall to communicate smoother.


so today my wife heard from her attorney that the paper work was done and ready to be signed. all I could do is calmly say I love you!and pray that this does happen and that the lord will change her heart and keep moving on with this challenge



Even though not having my wife next to me right now, God helped me in telling her every day that's she's the one i married because i love her, and will love her always, always!

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Amen. Definitely know how this feels.Keep fighting for her!.


I was stuck on it for about a month as I waited for the right opportunity! finally it came and to my surprise he said it back with tears running down our faces!please pray for full restoration for our marriage

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Done! rooting for yall. Keep the prayers up and stay faithful in God!


I choose to love my wife. She deserves the best from me I started a fight last night because I'm still struggling to live by His example. I will continue to pray and ask God to strengthen me to fight the enemy not my partner.

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you got this with God on your side. don't let the devil hold you and your marriage down.
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God forgave her and I NEED to forgive her too and stop letting the past get in the way of our glorious future.


I love him and I am inlove with him, but unfortunately he has fallen out of love with me. I pray that God restores his love for me. I will fight every day for our relationship

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I am in the same boat. I have seen small glimmers of hope and I hold on to that. God can restore all things and from the ashes he brings beauty. Either way you will be okay!


I don't expect you to love me. My love for you is not conditioned upon your love for me. I will not factor your thoughts/feelings about me into how much or whether I love you. I love you, even when...

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wow.... this is really profound, and heavy unfortunately... I feel like such a disappointment to him


Since we haven't seen each other in over a month this would be hard. I sent her flowers today just to tell her I love her even if she doesn't right now. I miss my wife so much



This book is such a joke. I've been doing this and my husband wants to burn the book all we do is fight!

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this is when it gets hard. Love demands everything in return for nothing. christ sacrificed all for us.


done. Said I love you and Im chosing to keep loving you even with you hating me. She did say I dont hate you but not much more than that. Alot of anger aimed my way. some is my fault and some isnt she says from years of holding onto offenses.



my husband is the same way. sometimes I wait to say it just to see if he will but I get my feelings hurt every time. feel hopeless



funny thing is she will tell me she loves me if I tell her first. once in awhile she will say it first. But yet she feels we need to be split up. lost and confused is my mindset

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I feel you on the lost and confused part. I tried to talk to my husband today and he was short with me and needed to get off the phone. He has been staying with his brother 90% of the time in the last 2 months, but he made sure he came home and did Thanksgiving with me. So.... I don't know.