day 2 its hard, its likevshe accepts but puts more walls around. need to see changess in you(@)

It been hard lately especially when your treated like shit with no respect at all. I am about to juat give up and focus on myself and pets

I am in the same boat. God has the final say. The just shall live by faith. Trust God!

so totally broken

im scared becouse my wife told me 2days ago that she is contemp with just coexisting and she dosnot have energy to try to put into the marriage after i have failed and broke her heart so many times before,

Its hard for me to do these things bcuz my husband is locked up.

It's not easy being the wife doing these steps. Sometimes it seems it would be easier for husbands to do these steps to their wives.

today i offered to buy her coffee n breakfast..have no idea how shes goin to react to this

today i didnt let my wife do the house today because shes in a lot of pain. and today i also helped her get inside so she doesnt slip on snow and black ice. and shes confused on whats going on.

This was easy. i cleaned the whole house so she didnt nees to for her weekend off work.

today my wife was in a better mood im still guarding myself i dont want hurt and dont want to hurt her also

I have been making a point to cook dinner at night. keep the house clean. wash his laundry put it away. hopefully he sees the gestures and does not just expect them

gave him a little wrapped chocolate randomly, just set it in his thigh. it's hard because I have no accessto funds and cannot drive, so I gave him a chocolate from the packet he had given to me a couple days ago. praying for you all

we went on a date as friends date went well. i was not pushy when it came to the date being over and i suggested going to a hotel. and i confessed my live for her to 2 youngsters. expressing deep emotions for respecting and loving their one.

Today my husband told me he loved me, cared tremendously for me and still finds me attractive BUT is no longer in love with me. I am struggling but I know God can move mountains.

I failed to cherish my wife and not being kind to her was a big part of that. I am naturally gruff, and although I was intentionally kind for a while, I became complacent. Today, in this context, It was easy. Why couldn't I have always done that?

i have focused on what i thought my family needed and what they wanted was me. Working nonstopsecluded me from them. Now my wife doesnt know if she can see me change back to the father and husband my family needs

Been married 6 years and I have been the cause of her pain and I want to do right to save my family. She opted to reach out to my siblings and they turned their guns on her...so now I have to play mediator.

so today I thought at least things would be somewhat better but because I didn't do something he was expecting, he starting having mood swings with me. I'm trying to say anything mean to him but it's hard but I am trying.

well did not go as well as I would have liked it was actually probably a step backwards but we're both still here trying fighting not together separated but showing up and that's a step Brandon333white@gmail.com

I am trying not to display that I am hurt by her actions. Tomorrow is our 4 hour Anniversary and she's not sure if she will be available to entertain me. God knows the conversations we have had and the promises before him.

i made dinner for my wife but this just ended in a argument. i had cooked the chicken breasts in the oven instead of on the stove which took twice as long. i was told im not a real man cause at the age of 28 i still cannot even cook dinner..

keep striving dont give up on God caus he hasn't give up on you anything is possible if we love Him.

i stugle with day 2 it is very difficult not to say sameting negative of sameone it they speaks negative of you behind your back. please help me to get strength to forgive te one how speaks negative

I know it is only Day 2, but I feel a little discouraged. This feels so unreciprocated and unappreciated. I know it will be worth it in the long run, but i could use some prayer.

Struggling today. had to Google acts of kindness I could do. that's how disconnected I am. ended up getting him some sugar free treats he can have as he's diabetic. i hope he likes it. still angry.

Weve been married for 6 years and I am the one that causes her to turn away from me because I am cold towards her. But I love her soo much and Realize that my actions have an effect on her and want to save this marriage at all cost.

been a very rough day, we're just so disconnected and he seems to have zero interest in us. 😭

idk how to gift a man that's not around. not available and is one words texted over a cell phone. I guess I can give his sorry ass a meme. A

idk how to gift a man that's not around. not available and is one words texted over a cell phone. I guess I can give his sorry ass a meme.

I worked hard on cleaning the house. i know acts of service is my wife's Love Language working in the anxiety i have realizing how my words have hurt her in the past

day 2, today was a little better for me. still have some moments where my thoughts wanna mess me up but prayer us helping me little more. my issues all started when my husband began traveling alone.trying to be happy for him but im feeln selfish

today was a rough day. i felt more alone then i ever have. i fulfilled a promise i made yesterday to her. we talked but no breakthrough. maybe im pushing to much? i hope she can start opening back up from the years of damaged ive done to her.

I knew he was without a med pen 🌿 and I went and got him one without being asked. Only because i wanted to not because I felt obligated to. I also knew it would be greatly appreciated.

I bought my husband a new ring in resemblance of starting a new marriage with God as our foundation

well to my surprise I was able to conduct a task before reading loving this app day 2 and we did facials did not expect he was gonna let me do him lol

well to my surprise I was able to conduct a task before reading loving this app day 2

I already failed. My husband left. He is not coming back.

Been tough, but trying to fight for this marriage that i screwed up. please pray for forgiveness

i decided to give my ear to my wife ..

Today i cleaned the house completely and it was so nice to have some time to myself before my husband got home. he really enjoyed having a clean house. and hes been super cuddling.

im having a rough one today. since we had our falling out he has started a new job 4 hours away. yesterday was amazing as we were together but only for a few hours. 12 days to to until he returns to visit again.

Today I gifted my wife some shoes she had been wanting without her asking me for them, not aure if this fits the "kindness" goal but that's what I did today

typically, i get mad when she opens my mail. she did it today, she told me it's really not big deal. i agreed. felt good. and it really ain't that big of a deal.

i offered to take my partner fir a Ice-cream date but he declined. well atleast i tried to be kind today

We live separately and have no way of seeing each other or speaking to each other. What gesture can be done? I don't want to put a lot of pressure on things as the wound is still fresh. i also humbly request prayer for this situation 🙏

my husband is gone with his sister says hes done we haven't seen each other in 2 says . plz pray we have 4 years and my 4 kids love him like a dad .

My husband has no idea that i have started the Love Dare 40 days journey. Please pray for us.

please pray for peace in my marriage. Queen

I really miss my husband, we have been married for 4years plus now. he hardly talks to me, not even call nor play with me. All I want is for him to call me. Queen

Today went awesome 😎💯✝️🙏❤️

i miss my wife we been married for 3 years all most 4 been together almost everyday and sence what happened haven't seen her much and i miss her so much even though she was unfaithful i pray God to repair this please pray for her and me

please pray for me. day 2 and I can't handle it. I've destroyed my wife with my selfish ways and sarcasm. and she let me know. with both barrels. I want this to work and I'm not giving up yet.

i miss my wife next me.

my husband was negative last night

living together but according to her we are separated, have 2 kids togther, she works full time.Iam off due to an injury feel 0 respect and want to.save it as i love her. Made her breakfast and lunch for her break.

acts of kindness becomes easier or naturally if you make it a habbit. cleaned kitchen- made her feel better made her cup of tea naturally noticed she was hanging up clothes, she cried saying its the first time we did it together and she felt noticed

acts of kindness becomes easier or comes more naturally if you make it a habbit via concious effort. made cup of tea, later noticed she was hanging up clothes, she cried saying its the first time we did it together and she felt noticed

we are seperated currently. this feels hard to come up with something as I had to leave because of abuse. He continues the cycle...I think I'm realizing his words often bring death but I want to bring words that bring life and peace (Philippians 1)

as my act of kindness for my wife today i got up fixed her a cup of coffee and packed her lunchbag for her work today.

I was unfaithful again. I am so so sorry. My wife hates me. I asked the lord to look into her heart for forgiveness. I am really sorry this time. starting again hoping this works for tge second time

I brought some pizza and cheesecake home to my husband thinking he didn't have eat yet. He did have his own dinner but I gave him cheesecake. Instead of saying thank you he complained about the size of slice.

called him at work and bring him to his favorite restaurant for a nice meal.

Took him a warm cup of coffee to his study.

I thought i had been loving her. i had just been wanting her to love me. i cannot make her love me, but i cant make God not love me.

I unloaded a bag of horse feed from my soon to be father in laws truck without being asked

Today was my wife's birthday. 2 of our children and 1 granddaughter visited. Having all of us together happy and healthy gave me overwhelming joy. So much it almost spilled out in tears. God is good.

I told my wife I'd like to take her out. She said no. I offered to massage her feet. She said no.

Most of you need to realise that when you get married, putting your needs last and those of your spouse first, is the way to go. God bless you.

I feel like a idiot i tried again to get her to spend time with me she responded by saying she tired yet i went out tobgetbher what she wanted

i tried to make my wife happy although she in a mood. im not well as this rift between us is troubling me.got home and she wasnt there came home after sunset and wanted me to get few things. i did it she got upset coz i had a call

i was reading a book and it said that pleasers tend to become doormats, i dont know how to balance being kind and overlooking offenses without being a doormat

I went to get my wife her smokes so she didnt have to go out in the cold. even though they stink lol

I don't usually have dinner ready when he gets home. so I'm making a dish he likes and have it hot and ready when he gets home.

Act of kindness i sent my husband a message to show how thankful and grateful i am for him. We just had a newborn and im staying home. Hes been a great help and with our kiddos.

Just as I got up from praying after my morning devotion, I greet my Wife and she comes out guns blazing, "shouting" at me. I thank God that I responded with kindness, I kissed Her on the forehead, washed the dishes and went to work.

i have not yet married it was course that men in the church go did. im reading it and im currently praying for a wife.

Day 2. I couldnt think of any random kindness but to make his lunch for work. Im trying not get get upset as he didnt even say thank you.

I'm really struggling with the kind gesture thing.. I feel like some days I over do the kind acts daily, but I want our marriage to work so I'm trying this love dare and I feel like I'm failing any suggestions for this husband Bj

Day 2 lost my temper and apologized. Not sure what kindness to do for my husband, he always does nice things for me. I'm spoiled.

itoday is day 2 yesterday was hard as it was my first day buttoday things have been alot smoother than usual.

Today is day 2 for me and I did some things for my husband which was not hard at all. It's day 2 for him as well. I hope that he will show his true romantic self that I fell in love with. -AL

Yesterday was a little harder to not say anything negative. I had a little slip. I did some of the cleaning he does when he gets home, he noticed and thanked me. Made me smile. - GCD

after having a deep diacussion on what we want to happen between us we both agreed thay even though we say we are ending our relationship deep down we want to work even when a struggle

i had a hard time thinking of something kind to do for my wife. a friend suggested that i just be observant and that a need would somehow appear that she needed. she later in the day mentioned that she needed to shave her legs. so i did.

Been at work all day. first message from her is yelling at me and telling me she can't wait to leave me. we have 2 boys and a baby girl on the way. I want to fight for her but sometimes I think it would be easier to give up.

I feel like I'm losing my husband, though he is physically here and I feel like I have prayed the same prayers over him over and over. He said to me yesterday he wants to do his own thing, wants freedom, wants peace.

I started this love dare today, But I'm on day 2. I am doing this for my husband. So I am a wife. Give me some examples of kind gestures, great ones!

For this day two, what are some unexpected gestures as an act of kindness? I need some great examples. This is hard, and I don't even wanna do this! But I chose to take this journey to see my marriage change and thrive with God's help!

Today, I decided to make him chicken salad for his lunch. I saw it was low so I went to the store to get what is needed. And, I've bought cards to leave for him to express connection for the next 40 days.

Not married but in a relationship for 2 years. Despite my attempts to improve our relationship, im here. I may be the only one wanting a relationship.

last night my husband fell asleep & didnt spend time w/me. he said he felt bad for not spending time w/our son. it hurt but showed me its not just about me. -L

I pray in Jesus name the he will bring reconciliation to your marriage. Remember God is still God and he is still in the miracle business!

Day2 went well. please lord give me patience because I want him to show love most of the time. but its about changing me.. ??? Do I stop looking for Love from him?

i sent a love quote

I offered to wash his feet as I know he loved this but he refused. I don't wanna lie I was hurt . My mind is filled with the idea that I should divorce him.

I missed a great chance to show kindness last night, instead was subtly negative. I was so sad. I'm staying on this day until I think of an unexpected act of kindness I can do. Not sure why it's so hard to think of something.

people often talk about giving them their flowers now instead of waiting till later on so I chose to write a love letter and a gratitude letter and an appreciation letter to my wife on this day with a bouquet of flowers

I know that my husband is really big on physical, So my commitment to him is to be more intimate physically with him and be consistent even when I am not always feeling my best.

lets see how day 2 goes i already rubbed his back since he has been asking me to do it and cooked him dinner & he told me he loves me today a first time n along while

today I show my kindness by doing a poem in a video

that there's different ways to show love I did a poem and video to show my kindness and that I apologize for the past and how God is good

i rubbed her from head to toe last night. Also have been kind in my words and actions. i also took all of her bags to the car without being asked.

i gave my wife foot and leg massage and just holding her in my arms telling her i love her we had pretty good conversation bout any topics it was good start of day #2 ..

i gave my wife foot and leg massage and just holding her in my arms telling her i love her we had pretty good conversation bout any topics it was good start of day #2 this book of love dare it is only last resort ..

She thanks im doing these things to suck up too her and that im not being genuine. My only intent was to let her know im here and i care. im just trying to make new habits , ones of love and kindness instead of bitterness and anger.

Day 1 went well,Went with him to a cricket game, I'm not into sports...had so much fun but everything changes wen we got home. ignored me and even pushed me away wen I tried cuddling. what was the use then😢let's try again today

Day 1 went well,Went with him to a cricket game, I'm not into sports...had so much fun but everything changes wen we got home. ignored me and even pushed me away wen I tried cuddling. what was the use then😢

I feel like my wife's fears are too well rooted and I can't do enough to prove that I am not anyone from her past. I have flaws too. She was raped, physically violated, choke slammed against a wall and has trust issues.

Day 2. Did his chores without complaint or outward wrath of attitude. Kept tongue in cheek. Watched the news with him. I tried to think of another gesture, but this was the only thing I could emotionally extend myself to do.

I admire everyone's bravery 2 b transparent,sharing your vulnerability. marriage is, at times, hard & painful. God can heal,change our hearts.never lose faith, see the small blessings when hurt surrounds

today is day 2 for me and i did his 2 chores for in the morning which is taking out the trash and taking the dog out to potty.

my partner doesn't want to talk to me , I tried to send him money as he's financially struggling but he said he wants respect not money I wa mentally sick and said things I can't take back please send prayers

I sent my partner money today as an act of kindness he replied I don't want money I want respect. he doesn't want to even talk to me. I was mentally sick and said things I can't take back please pray for ua

please pray hes being so mean and though i dont argue back it hurts. and i feel like my heart is shattered

This is really hard for me to do, but I know it's the best thing. Will reevaluate after a month. Prayers please

I think this app will help us a lot. I'm doing it alone. but it's something I look forward to doing every day right now.

I think this app will help us a lot. I'm doing it alone. I think the hard part will be when he is drunk as I just feel really alone and overwhelmed as we have 4 kids between 2 and 11

and go to "War" with the enemy and Watching God fight your battles (Exodus 14:14 NKJV) and say in Jesus' name, Amen.God is up to something or the devil wouldn't be fighting you this hard, your going to WIN, Amen. Prayer+Fasting+God' Word=Victory...

What you need to do is hang up the gloves and stop fighting. And put on the Armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-20 NKJV)

On Day 2 and feeling hopeless. I've messed up my marriage so bad that i dont know if this plan will work. I tried it before but fell off after Day 13. Pls pray for me and my family...

Remember, Nothing Is Impossible for God. Exodus 14:14 Amen.

I am on Day 2 and i feel like i am losing already. My wife has stated she wants to divorce me. I tried this plan but failed to follow through past Day 13. 😔 Pray for me because I have lost most if not all hope 🙏

Hi , i was hoping that along with the readong and what we have to do each day there would have been a prayer of some sort for marriages

I know how my SO hates an unruly house and so I cleaned until 2am and the house is spotless, made him coffee this morning waiting when he got up and still I am treated like a stranger.

It has been 2weeks since I found out my husband cheated on me. There wasnt any signs but come to find out he was cheating. I am doing this challenge for Us. It is very difficult but I know God will make a way.

Day 2 of the journal and it has been a week and a half since she left with no communication from her whatsoever. It seems the more I try the more it is pushing her away. God I'm asking you to restore healing within our hearts.

is my 2nd day doing the challenge and the hard copy of it it should arrive today, I'm giving it to him as a present, hopefully he commits to it. Please keep us in your prayers!

My husband has separated from me. I have the kids with me. PLEASE pray for God to bring us back together. I am willing to forgive him. he still says he loves me.

My husband and I have been having issues communicating, there is lots of hope after our first session of counseling. God is good.

Im on day 3. my wife wants a divorce. its my fault. i drove her to this and its been a long time coming. i need to change and we need healing in our relationship. if you are reading this. please pray for rich and angel. i love her. i cant lose her!!!

My husband and I are divorced but that changes nothing the seven years we've been apart changes nothing. The pain brought on by all of it changed alot but I have faith and I believe in the power of prayer!

I'm doing this in secret. I know I have issues. I know if I want him to be a better person I need to let the Lord do that work but I can lead by example. So I'm working on me to be a better wife.

I'm doing this in secret because I know I have issues. I know if I want him to be a better person I need to let the Lord do that work but I can lead by example. So I'm working on me to be a better wife.

This is day 2. I am believing that God will restore my relationship with my husband. We haven't communicated in years and our relationship has been affected by it. I can see a faint glimmer of hope.

I am also secretly doing the dare. Something has to change I've been unhappy for a while and I pray this works.

I need tons of prayer right now for my marriage. I feel like my family is falling apart. I just want to go back to the time when God was at the center of our marriage and we were unstoppable.

I resolute to filling my heart with holy desires and purposeful thing to the glory of God.

today is day 2 for me and i ran my husband a bath, my attitude change yesterday must have helped something because he turned down the bath and said he wanted to hang out with me instead.

Made a cup of coffee and giving hugs unexpectedly. Trying hard not to get horny and expect sex.

Day 2 was difficult because I do find myself doing nice things often. I'm reminding myself that this isn't an exercise in quid pro quo but rather truly committing to investing in my husband regardless of being noticed. Showing him that I love him.

was definitley not expectingbthe reaction i got to the flowers and hand drawn card but i will continue to push forward. her reactoon was to say " you really are trying for a different out come arent you." damn that hurt

I'm facing the hardest divorce but I love her so much still that it hurts to walk away.

day 2. i prayed. left it in God's hands. the lord has helped me and I'm happy. i feel loved because God loves me.

it's day 2 for me. Day 1 wasn't so hard to do. Day 2 may be hard. I'm always doing kind and helpful things for him. any other ideas.

I have hurt my wife so deeply that I don't know if this challenge will save our marriage. I'm doing it anyway, because at a minimum I hope it changes me. day 1 was easy. she rejected my attempts at day 2. please pray.

I let her sleep in after long work days for her. She looked really refreshed when she woke up.

day 1 was fairly easy only had to hold my tongue once day 2. I did make her coffee this morning and washed the dishes right after work tomorrow I need to get her something that says I was thinking of you I'm not sure what I could get her.

so i started reading this kus my man told me too but then he tells me not to think wrong ?? i dont get it

help me. he is very mad at me. he assumes that i am the worst type of women ever.. but i am sure that he is wrong... what will i do.. how can i show kindness..?

Ive been ready to leave lying/hiding on his part. I going in this with my eyes open I truly want to save my marriage. We always show acts of kindness toward eachother in many ways on a daily. idk what else I can do in this aspect.

how do I make a gesture when he has moved out .. any ideas ???

Hi Everyone, my partner & I have seperated. any ideas on day 2 when he is so far away

I try so hard to show kindness to my wife but when she's not in a good mood or not happy with me she just ignore me or acts like she wants nothing to do with me or nothing I have to offer her

Today I chose to gather his things for basketball and bring them to him so he could attend! he seemed very appreciative which he's never hateful about! I just wish the trust could be built back up and that the other woman would disappear.

please pray for me. I'm trying to show her love but in her mind now our marriage was based on lying because of something i told her i was looking at when dating and married. She want to end our marriage because of it.

Day 2 is going to be a challenge - when you're the one who already does everything. What can you do as a gesture of kindness? Not trying to come off as bitter - really struggling. 😒

I ended up failing day 1.I do feel better telling him how I feel but feel bad because I should have used better wording. This morning we fought a little but we got to the bottom of things. Do I need to start over?

Day 2 I was positive and took him lunch at work tonight. Whew this is so hard! Simply because he is emotionally unavailable due to mental illness and can really be hateful. But I'm determined to see this love dare thru!

I've started this journey in hopes to earn my wife's trust and love back. We're separated and some of these challenges seem difficult due to the current situation. I couldn't really do anything for her today but I spoke no negative thoughts.

I'm 18, I'll be 19 in 1 month, I've been married almost a year. lately things have been bad in my marriage. so I decided to go to God about it. This is were the Lord lead me. God knows me well. I'll take any dare. Especially one that glorifys God.

honest, truth, faithfulness,love, kindness

I'm always a loving person but lately the strain is still there I'll comment later but I'll do anything to help take baby steps to save and strengthen my marriage

I wont Condign what you doing but sent your brother Monet for you. I love you. wish you would talk to me

Actually looking forward to Day 2....compared to where we were a week or more ago things are a complete change!!!! Faith...hope....eventually love again ❤ 💕

wife and I having problems, I help her into an apt. was with her all day. I just wanted to make sure had everything and was safe. but it hit me that this is real and it might b the end of us. prayers please

struggling to control my feelings of disappointment. I have many questions and he is the only one that can answer them. I really want to trust him again

today was hard. im struggling with my own vices. its been time for me to let go. i have to let go. and LET GOD.

I failed day 2 where it said in adition to say nothing negative.My wife said she loves a other man and not me,all this after 14years.I was somehow upset.I had my mistakes where i didnt treat her like a woman

this is a couple days delay as we are fighting so much I stopped for a little bit plus working nights didn't help never saw him. now my new job I will.

My wife and I are separated and currently not even living in the same state. Is this still something I can do if we aren't physically together?

Lord Almighty help us all thank you father for your love, trust, watching over us teaching . thank you for your patient. in Jesus ne Amen

this isn't working for me. I'm trying to work on this but I just can't get him on board with me.

I made my husband a cold glass of lemonade and took it out to him while he worked on a car. He asked why when he has a when fridge of cold drinks... I smiled and told him he didn't have cold lemonade. While I was walking away, he did tell thabk you.

this is really hard to do alone when all your husband can do is think about the other woman. He told me today he would be going to see her this weekend. I'm still fight for our marriage but it hurts to seem him on the phone with her.

Made him tea and and tried to be intentionally affectionately

what to do if the other person insults you?

today is the 2nd day for my spouse and I. I am excited that he is willing to participate and give it a go. means the world to me

Arrange flowers to deliver to her workplace. Cleary God start working on her forgiveness and i have faith that the journey will be fruitful for my marriage. Thank you Lord

everyday I do my best to make my wife one cup of espresso with fome and caramel drizzled on the top. I did that this morning, also letting our roosters out of the garage back into the hens coop. I am sure that wont be all today.

I was the unfaithfull one. My wife wants a devorce with all her heart and all her strenght. This morning i cried out to God again to please touch her heart and to start the healing process for her.

day 1 & 2 sucessful😁. I have a problem with controlling my mouth and at times stay instead but that also frustrates him. we spoke before the dare started and promised to communicate better.

Doing unexpected kind gestures for me is easy. The harder part is the icy distance I feel from her. She seems in a sour mood. However, I am still pushing on. Prayed this morning and hoping her heart melts a bit more for me each day.

tonight was a good night I washed the clothes for her and it was really great to see her relax for once but it still a long road ahead

Day 2. It was easy to not say anything negative when you don't hear from her but I sent some love songs from the heart and maybe she will listen.

this is going to be a tough one today. I'm struggling financially and my husband has money but won't offer any to help with bills or even for gas in my car. it's just going to be tough

I'm beginning to think I'm fighting a losing battle. all he wants to do is argue. it is so hard to keep my temper under control. I need prayers for his hardness and my hear.

we hadn't talked in 2 weeks unless we were fighting. today I made him dinner, he didn't say thank you, but he ate it. that is progress.

my wife is noticing already after two days. We have a long way to go but I am committed to my beautiful bride.

Lit candles in the room before bed.

so we had a decent 2nd day, hope day 3 is better.

He can speak so unkind when he is frustrated which illicits such defensiveness in me. I was not perfect in my tone, but the Holy Spirit kept love in my heart and mouth.

kind hard to do this one she not living with me but I try I called and offered to buy her breakfast or bring coffee to her but she did not want it I'm trying so hard to make it right

I was sick today so not much that I could do, but I found a love song that fit us perfect. I sent it to him on fb messanger to listen to on his way home from work.

Today i gave my wife flowers as i cried and please ask her to forgive me amd that i am sorry if i did anything wrong to hurt her she took the flowers put it in vase in the kitchen

how can you do this when you're not living together and they barely talk to you? I so want so do this, but need some ideas on how.

this one backfired on me I bought some food to make a special dinner for him and he got so mad at me

My wife has told me she wants a divorce back on 6-4. We have 2 young boys. we have had struggles for the last 3 years.in and out of therapy. she says the emotional connection is not there and she has nothing left to fight for.

i made sure to prioritize his phone calls he needed over mine and it felt good to tell him about it.. until he explained i did it wrong. he was overly nice ab it being a simple mistake which actually made me feel weird n not enough (again)

I got this love dare going in my circle of ppl and I think its a great idea

iv been working hard and I made it through today with the tools i have been learning in Celabrate recovery and councleling and I love how this app gives me a a place to check and track my progress

I have been working on words of affirmation for day 2 along with saying nothing negative.

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.

I am finding a big struggle going on as certain things are said but by the grace of God I have been able to keep my mouth shut and listen

im finding I am getting through this challenge by leaning on God and not expecting anything in return is big

it's Father's day and I decided to make my husband biscuits and gravy for breakfast and some coffee.... but he ate with out me and already had a cup 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

how is this working for everyone? I'm having a hard time with this. I feel like I'm always fighting with my husband

i did it!!!! took 3 days but I finally accomplished it.

I told my husband some encouraging words this morning but failed to not say anything negative later on. we both argue about everything!

I have tried two days to do this without success. I rarely see him so it's a problem, but I'll try again tomorrow. I can say the attempts have not gone unnoticed.

I vacuumed your pool twice and brushed it. neck and shoulder massage too

I vacuumed the pool

what are some ideas?

today I realized that doing innocent good deeds for my wife was tricky, everything nice she would just feel that I was wanting something. everything else I normally do. but I was able to do a small kind gesture butt it was unnoticed

Should you start over if you mess up a day?

I made my wife breakfast and coffee. I just recently started doing all of the household work instead of none. It started as a "it's not that hard. I'll show you". I realize now I should help out of love, not spite.

got up and made breakfast for Kendra and the baby for when they woke up it would be ready.

I send my husband the bible verses he has asked why do I do that I said because I wanted to, no reason, and I love you he said well I don't read them what do I do???

I send my husband the bible verses he has asked why do I do that I said because I wanted to, no reason, and I love you he said well I don't read them what do I do???b

I gave him a massage and we made love afterwards. so, this worked.

My husband bought me beautiful flowers and donuts. I was surprised. I got him a caramel Frappa. it was delicious. he was surprised.

do you recommend me telling him I love him even when I receive no response? it's almost as though it irritates him so I don't know if it's wise or not

didn't say anything negative today and made her coffee this morning (not something I usually do)

doing an unexpected gesture of kindness is hard when I do 90% of everything for our household and kids....

spending time with my son with whom I don't really get along really surprised her today, and have her a chance to have 1 on 1 time with our daughter. 2 birds with 1 stone.

my fiance and I are doing this before we get married in November. we have both been married before and want so much to start this out right

Well I definitly failed today,everything I thought of doing was either recently done or I didn't have the means to do and tonight I got angry and lost my temper.....wondering if this 'is a waste Of our time at this point in our Marraige

its hard to do an unexpected gesture a kindness when we're not living together so I texted her and told her since we're not together do you want or need anything

Did more than one thing especially after the first one backfired and made him a little bit irritated but the other 1 I know he appreciated.

Made her, her favorite dish, in addition to not saying any negative to her 😊. Hope she felt it. 😊

I tried to do a good gesture today but hes making it so hard when he yells about things hes doing better like hes has a better job and apartment...I have more than anyone my age does and he makes me feel like I'm nothin

He said he wanted to do this together but his book is here so I'm probably not going to get an unexpected gesture. It was hard to do this, but I did. the hardest part will be not saying anything negative when he does come home.

I made him a chocolate layered cake w/ganache.Today was his day off work, but haven't heard from him, who knows if he is coming home or not.

wow, it's a chore to hold your tongue when he does things he knows bother me. At times it feels like a set up just to argue

Day 2, we started this yesterday together, but he never came home after work last night. No phone call, nothing.

pray this helps

I took him so e dinner tonight, I had to hold my tongue cause when I got the the house that hes staying at, he was leaving after telling me he didn't feel like going anywhere!

I made him a Playlist of songs we like listening to together while driving ans sent him a goodmorning text

Day two not sure how to accomplish this, going through some financial constraints, lost my Job due to the current pandemic. both really stressed out coz of this and sometimes snapping at each other in moments of frustration.

I really hope this works I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

how do you be kind and0iu not negative to someone whom is so selfish?

how do you be kind and not negative to someone whom is so selfish?

Today I'm making breakfast for my husband I have noticed since we have talked things are starting to get better between us.

I am on day to of trying the love dare I really want this to work I am trying really hard

well I woke up and got in the shower this morning.

this is a hard one because I do everything at home but I did get him so new floor mats for his truck.

we don't talk. even if I msg him he just reads it but doesn't reply :( how can I do this dare :(

it was an ok day. my spouse snapped at me a bit and was a little rude but it was ok

I bought my husband a pair of shoes and a shirt.

I took care of him while sick and made him noodles and broth this morning.

this one is both easy and hard

Today was soo hard for me, I'm soo broken, I just don't want to be alive anymore. My heart hurts so much the pain feels soo physical. Seeing my husband not wanting to be with me anymore is soo hard. Nothing seems to be working 😭

Today was soo hard for me, I'm soo broken, I just don't want to be alive anymore. My heart hurts so much the pain feels soo physical. Seeing my husband not wanting to be with me anymore is soo hard.

This was harder than I expected. Nothing seemed appropriate. Finally decided on a lemonade from CFA. (Hey, it seemed to work in the movie. )

this was harder than I thought. Brought my wife a lemonade from CFA. it seemed to work in the movie...

One act of kindness, I washed all of his caps left in our house. Then, I sent him a message if he want to drop by to get it so he can use it alternately. Though he did not respond, I'm still glad that I made Day 2 of the dare.

woke up with my wife just to make her coffe today. Tomorrow I am going to find Lilies seeing as how they signal rebirth as in the rebirth of our marriage and make her a special card myself and get her a 200 dollar massage.

woke up with my wife just to make her coffe today.

Do unto others as you would like done to you. Today I'm humbled by Gods kindness in showing me how to be more like his Son.

made him one of his favorites for dinner. even made his favorite desert. he said thanks but you didn't have to go out of your way for me. he didn't appreciate it. maybe I should have tried something else.

I believe this one is a little bit easier..... sort of!!!!

Think i might have completed step 2. Assisted my wifes inlaws without them expecting me to do so actually. Ive always have, but due to circumstances i think it might mean more. Or i hope so

i arranged a surprice bbq for my wife and baught desert .Che loved it.

I tuck him out for his birthday for dinner and I bought him two gifts for hia birthday and did something for him from the bottom of my heart. and I gave him somethimg that I needed because he needed it more.

I stood in line for 2 hours at the DMV with him instead if sitting in the car like last time. glad I did. we had some nice conversation

I failed today at not saying anything negative/putting him doen though, but achieve the act of kindness today for day 2. Should I be doing day 2 tomorrow again, since i only achieved one part of it today?

on this day I know she needed a flathead and decided to walk to work early to drop it off on her car so she had the tool she needed.

so today was about the same as yesterday. For the act of kindness, I did her laundry, and am finishing it with mine tomorrow.

I got up early to go start his car before work (in the rain) and fixed his lunchbox. im really hoping this challenge helps us 🙏

I made great effort today, only to feel let down. I will keep pushing on though.

i rarely say goodnight i love you anymore. I did tonight. Ya unhun love u too... O my its gonna be a month to remember

unexpected gesture of kindness.... Its so hard not returning what is given. Gesture of kindness. No argueing in the car. offered to pick him up... It never seems big or small he only cares when i have something he wants

I unexpectedly did the dishes for him.. I've been really depressed as my mom passed recently so just getting up and moving has been tough and has put everything on him.

hubs said he needs to clean his desk because its overwhelming when he tries to study or work. This morning, he joked and asked if I wanted to clean it while he ran a job. It's clean, organized and waiting for him when he gets home 😊

I believe I unintentionally did it!!! Thank you Jesus!!!

I dont even know what a kind gesture would be but not to be mean to him. I'm always angry at everything not just him. Lord help me find a way back into loving not just him but myself...

i rarely affirm or let my husband know how special and loved he is. so this is a great challenge to let him know that

I made my spouse a good Valentine dinner and he enjoyed it a lot. I didn't say anything negative to him either we had a great day.

today is the day associated with love!!! it said to do a small acted of love along with not saying anything negative!!! So I made him a good valentine's dinner that was cozy and warm to match the weather!!! He seemed to enjoy it! love is so good!

let's start this again on my 21st anniversary and I have been doing something stupid for weeks and we argued over it.

day 2- I work 3rd shift and when I got home this morning he'd just gotten out of the shower.I noticed the heels of his feet needed a little TLC so I grabbed my foot file, kneeled on the floor and tended his feet. Her was very surprised.

dear Lord, help me to speak positive and be kind in all my gestures this day, toward my lovely wife

so many ppl are against us. i dont blame him for being angry. but tonight he we talked for the first time in almost a week he feels like i dont get what he does

Today I learned to make hot wings from scratch. After all that's happened recently, I wanted to give him comfort in more than just the usual ways. He said they were really good and that he enjoyed being pampered even if he felt weird. Baby steps!

I cooked his favorite meal and I am planning a night of passion if he is up to is... Fingers crossed 🤞 all goes well

today I realized that I haven't just hurt my wife but also someone that I have considered a best friend as well. I never wanted to hurt either. I love them both. I hope that I can change my was a regain the trust from both again

Even you the conversation started off negative..... I walked away and gave him his space. Later we were able to have a decent talk before he left. This really hurts but I'm trying. I love me husband and need to make it work.

She just lost her temper at me but I'm gonna make her some pancakes. Satan can't beat me. Haha! 😁

my kindness gets slammed and thrown back in my face

repeating day 2 didn't get a chance to really show an act of kindness yesterday. I will do better today

Satan doesn't want you to know that those were his ONLY NAILS that he put our boy Jesus on that tree with💥💥💥

I have to go do laundry today. I'm sure someone will walk into my life that God will lead me to blessing. 🙏 Be blessed!

He works night shift and I work evening shift.Today I decided to spend more time in bed snuggling and holding him.I did this because his love language is touch. He did appreciate the extra time I spent with him today.

what can I do that I already don't do. I am a stay at home mom I cook I clean. he works third shift so I let him sleep. any ideas would be great

completed this on Tuesday. Went for an appointment he had in regards to his eye knowing I couldn't come inside. sat in his car for 2 hours, asked if I could drive back cause he was not capable to drive

day 2 went well for me I usually get mad when she asks me to do something she can do especially when it's right next to her ( put something in trash while standing next to the can ) example

when love and communication is gone-what could be a nice thing to do but also not overdone? I did a few nice things, and a gift. he kind of shrugged & no thanks. i feel like anything I do is like a bother or insult

had a big fight today with my wife. did my best to stay patient and kind, but still did something I regret having done. It feels terrible, but I continue and will at least cook s purport dinner for us.

was difficult to not say anything negative while trying to discuss our current fighting, but, I think I did it?🤷‍♀️

i made him something al he can say is its cute 😔is this normal

We usually eat out for breakfast on Sundays. Today I let him sleep and made him pancakes since I know he likes them. Although he still somewhat complained. Seems like nothing I do is good enough for him.

My husband was very kind and helped me with housework today which was unexpected. I retrieved his medication for him in the evening in - 12 C weather, he'd forgotten to bring it back to the house.

Day 2 - My fiance and I have a long distance relationship. my act of kindness was remembering to wake him up as his alarm clock, telling him he's doing great at his job and I still held my tongue from his unloving words the other night

so today surprised me even though he constantly still wants to be alone and it hurts but I'm respecting it.he seems a little happier... he's smiling and not cussing or yelling or arguing it's a hopeful feeling...

today was more difficult I sent her a text saying I love you and I hope have a good day. i told her i was sorry and took accountability for my actions on friday which is rare for me. it seemed to change her mood.

Today my husband had to pick our kids up early. So I informed the school so he wouldn't have to wait.

I didn't even read part 2 so I got up an made her brakefast an coffee b4 she went to work , nothing was said so I just made it knowing I am trying .

I did do something today, granted, it was little but still something. However, I feel like I am in too much debt in the marriage that I either have to a lot of little things in one day or big things.

i made him his favorite dinner and laid out all his favorite things on the bed for when he gets home. it is all laid in a pretty design on the bed

I do everything for him everyday because I love him guess I can think of something new.

i made it to day 2 but he is stil mad im ignoring him when he says bad stuff

I made it to day two!! He's still grumpy. Also trying to watch language.

been a good day but plane is crashing fast- he got all mad about hiding crap on his phone when I went to grab it for him

I tried this but I am always putting in an effort in my marriage

I made coffee in bed for my wife and she drank it and also said thanks. Im more happy now to see that praying and having patience is working. Thanks alot

I'm gonna freak out its one sided I'm heart broken and devastated and trying!

as of right now I am practicing this with you.

day 2 done. took him a hot cup of tea when he was outside in the cold. he appreciated it.

Day 2 done. Didnt really know what to do, so I took care of her breakfast and lunch for her. We've both started back working out, I made sure her workout bag was ready with her favorite alkaline water.

Couldn't pack her a nice lunch for work so I desided to do all the house work she usually does. And I will still pack her lunch tomorrow. She told me that all the house work I did was just a front and it will never last... But that's OK

Wanted to pack her a nice lunch today but she slept over at her new lover last night, so I will still pack her lunch tomorrow along with buying her some chocolates and flowers, day 2 and 3 at once

looking forward to seeing my transformation in the next 40 days.

when our young son got up at 430 I let him sleep till 700 and tried to keep him as quiet as u can w a 2 yr old

Last night, we had the worst fight we have ever had. He was drunk & wanted a divorce then left. I couldnt stop him. He came home later, but slept on the couch. When I got up this morning, I still made his coffee, and poured him a cup.

he's the only one working and although I appreciate all he does I'm afraid I dont show him like i should. I've started doing little things for him but they all seem to go unnoticed.

Phew! Had a hard time figuring out what to do! But did and that felt good. He responded well.

I'm done trying this alone... not putting my all when he isn't giving to it at all. he thinks readying others comments is all he gotta do ~florida~ I'm deleting app.

today was great for us. ~florida~

today... I've been sincere in everything. checking on him , making sure he's alright. we had a long night, were just too sleepy and lazy today. but so far so good today. ~florida~

Today I took him lunch to work, he talked about adding this app as well. I'm trying any and everything to show I love him. Keeping Faith has been the hardest some days I feel he is so distant and that I'm losing.

Today, I woke up made his breakfast and lunch for work, Tonight I have a sitter for the kids and u have a special dinner planned at his favorite place just to show appreciation for all the does.

I work out of town & my wife is at home havin problems w/ people & her life. I have no control over anything that happens back home cause I'm gone for so long. I have to sit back & try not to stress & worry about

I feel this was one of my easier task

I went by the house with the kids because her grandmother said it was her ubcles car and he went fishing. but guys was there working on house I messed up thought it was something it may not have been.

I'm engaged. I thought it would be a good idea to do something good to our relationship. Today I posted a nicely created Insta story with photos of him and wrote what I love about him and what I am grateful for.

I wrote a letter to my spouse.but he works out if town via text message. but I hope he reads it and starts to know my heart again. we have only been married a year. I love my husband with all my heart. succeed. how long does this take.

This was hard to do as he isn't living at home right now. So I keep texting I love him and things I love about him. I don't know whatelse to do.

Today I wrote a letter where I apologized for my wrong doings. I also included all the positive qualities I feel about my Spouse. He moved out so its hard to do much of anything.

I always like to do little things for my spouse

Looking back on my journal this was a hard day. My wife had filed for divorce and I felt God changing my heart. I was not worthy of my wife's trust so anything I did went unnoticed.

I bought two bags of his favorite candy.. to me this just normal I do the little thing because i love him so for me its easy

I love preparing little surprises but I'm not sure what to do today.

This one is kind of hard, cause he is out of the state, but I am trying to think outside the box.

my sweetheart is a trucker so this one is hard but I'm gonna think about how to do something special for him

my wife and I have just celebrated our first anniversary, and I am glad we are doing this.

I made my Husband a grilled spam and cheese sandwich for lunch. I can't have spam so it was specially made for him

I make his lunch everyday. I used to put little notes in his lunch box. so I will have to make something different today because I don't read my Love Dare till after he goes to work.

I need her a homemade card today. she was almost impressed

I already do this as a part of my love for her. I usually rub her back, cook her food, get her coffee, water etc. this week I did take her to get something done she has always wanted to do.

So today I decided to treat and pay for her lunch today as my act of kindness. in turn she said that she will just take the money and get her food for the entire week next week

the act of kind was a little difficult but I did it was like run to help a princess in distressed b it was also the look of its completely over

Completely failed this one. Found out from a friend that he'd been out at the bar with the girl he'd had an affair with. I wanted nothing to do with him after that. but i did complete yesterday instead if when it was supposed to happen.

This one is hard...

My husband needs my kindness more than my comments

Deep cleaned the house and fridge. Kept negative comments to myself about something he did yesterday.

today he asked me why I want try, I told him how I see him in my eyes and how much of a good perosn he is. finally said I miss yoyounfor the first time in 3 months.

after work I went out of my way to do all the chores, set up his coffee for the next day, wash his uniform, made dinner and served him and our kids at the table and even brought him a beer. all he had to do was come home and relax.

M - I guess I have put him off to show his affection by complaining or creating "waves" as he calls it. I have the evening left to do something for him. For now, i think I will just continue bringing him drinks or other small things.

M - One time i turned around to ask him something but said "i love you" instead. He answered with a heartfelt and sincere I love you too, that surprised me. He hasn't done that in a while. Nor did he hug me like that in a while.

M - Day 2 is going good. I felt anger arise at one point but i breathed and realised its nothing my husband did wrong, no reason to snap at him. I brought him cool drinks two times today. He hugged me walking pass and i answered with a smile.

being kind hearted is easy most of the time and then sometimes being kind is there hardest thing for me to do.

Tomorrow day 2 starts... It is a Saturday. I am not sure, what random act of kindness i could do for my husband. He probably would look at me like i am weird... Unless I offer sex. He would appreciate that. Anyone has any ideas?

let's see if today was any better then yesterday.

Forgiving is giving my husband and marriage over to God!

this us goingvtl be a long journey but I know we are ment to be i love my beautiful wife is my beat to my heart

I always treat other people with kindness... I forgot how it should start at home. Now that I have started to do this... I realise how kind my husband really is.