The Lovedare

19 - Love is impossible
1 John 4 vs 7 : Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of god; and everyone who loves is born of god and knows god.

Look back over the dares from previous days. Were there some that seemed impossible to you? Have you realized your need for God to change your heart and to give you the ability to love? Ask Him to show you where you stand with Him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.

 

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I feel like my husband gave or is giving up I just need a little help on prayers I LOVE MY HUSBAND DEEPLY



Early on I realized this is about changing my heart and trusting God to do His part. In the time I have left as her husband, God will help me persevere and truly love her as I should have all along. She deserves that and our kids need to see it.



Learning not to say unkind words to your spouse is very tough for me but a good lesson to treat them with kind words and firm in principles



this was hard as i have been a athias all my live i have seen the rejection and the last 3 weeks God has pulled me closer and i can say that im beginig a real relastionship wiht God



I wish there was someone that i could talk to because I am taking today's dare to heart but the thing is that my husband is such i liar and i can't take it anymore.

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Pray for his heart to change. I learned you can't force him to, only God can help him if he is willing to do his part. And keep up with these dares! Repeat if needed--he just might change!


my wife told me today she wants a divorce. im broken



my wife nd i got a councilor.our marriage isnt a priority no time for us shes lways tired,gives 1 word conversion. i feel theres more resentment towards me rather than love and understanding each other. i think im slowly getting discouraged



i suffer from a mental disorder. it gets in the way of our marriage and its pushed her away. im working on that and our marriage at the same time and trying to save the marriage. its the most difficult thing ive ever endured.

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Just remember to take care of yourself and still have a relationship with God in the process. Talk to whomever you need to talk to. Overall we are here for you too. You can do this ok. Pray for yourself and your spouse and let God make the necessary adjustments also. A mental disorder should not bar you from being happy ok. Just make the changes and become better as best as can be. Definitely lean on God throughout this process.


Yes very encouraging. It's just hard to make your home Christ centered when you feel differently about music, movies etc. I've been gone a few days,but I'm going back tomorrow.

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Understood just takes patience, prayer, and time. Remember nothing happens overnight but never underestimate the power of a seed. God is a great farmer after all.


12 yrs old my husband lost his older siblings to train accident. Mom rejected him. He loves God but has depended on alcohol. He is very negative, sarcastic and critical. I am no longer happy. wish he would leave. I just need to know when to let go.

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Pray for your husband give him to God. The Lord can make the change. Make God the center of your home and watch the change and divine turnaround. He's encountered alot of trauma in his life I know it must be heavy on you. Please let God heal your home. He can he will and he is able. Bible says when you have done all you can do just stand. Stand in faith, prayer, and great expectations. Just remember God also hates divorce love is not a fleeting feeling but a conscious choice everyday. The fact that you brought it here says that you love him. Love him with the Fathers love through prayer. Hope this helps.


My husband has given up on our marriage because he said I've push our kids away. I take responsibility for part of it but I dont think this is 100% my fault. If I can repair my relationships with our teenage kids then my marriage my work.

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You keep trying, everything worth while takes persistence. When something is as hard as a rock you keep hammering. Pray in faith and let God move in the areas that you can't. Then send those texts and those calls consistently. They will come around just continue to show effort and gratitude for when they do answer.
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How can I repair the relationship when yhe kids wont respond to my text or answer my calls?
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How can i add a question and whats happening in my life on the dare
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Definitely want to repair the relationship with the kids. Life flies by in the blink of an eye. It doesn't take much to start just a quick text hey thought about you guys hows your day. When they respond truly be present in the moment and address concerns or even just small talk. Other than that stay hopeful and fight for your family. You guys can definitely make it. Pray for them also husband and kids and that God can help to ease any tensions that may be present. Let him be the rock of your family he can help. Godbless. Stay strong!


Lord, thank you for the opportunities these last few days and helping me showing love to my wife. Lord putting the future in Your hands, knowing You will guide us the way. Thank you Lord!

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Amen! Gratitude is everything. Rooting for you guys!


I'm trying to forgive her the years of lies hurt bad. I've made terrible mistakes also but how do you trust when your partner lied to you about so much for so long. Please pray for us.

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God forgave us 7 times 70 over and over again. If we are to live the life He wanted for us, she must be forgiven too. Jesus gave His life for our sins. Forgive and move on.


I am feeling so discouraged today. I feel like I'm getting nowhere. maybe even backwards. the kinder I am the more I feel like I'm in the friend zone and not her husband. she is dedicated to her boyfriend its killing me inside!!!

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how is it going Paul?
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Prayers sent your way Paul.
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I do love her with all my heart, she asked me what if I don't get what I want and she never comes back to me. where will my faith be if God doesn't provide me with my wife back. I had to wrestle with that thought. I have decided that yes it may give me doubt if that happens but I do believe God will provide and if he doesn't in this situation he can a will provide me with what he sees as best for me and I will believe.
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please please pray for me! I need help right now. it hurts so bad!!!


you ever feel like you wish you were gone , but not suicide, this is NOT a attempt just to let everyone know.this is how I feel .I am doing everything and she is doing little but loves me and does not want me gone

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yes. I feel like I just want to lay down and be gone.
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I'm with you. 100% I felt that.


I ask God everyday if I am going down the right path. I need him more now than ever. I hope that he will place his hands on me and my wife and allow us to work things out and continue our marriage.



before my fiance i was so in love with God it was incredible. i lowered my standards for my fiance and have fallen itvseems out of favor with God. i know He loves and nothing will ever change that. pray that i get that fire back.



Thank You, Lord Jesus, for teaching me how to love my husband!!