17 - Love promotes intimacy
Determine to guard your mate’s secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse, and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.
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been doing all of these challenges from a distance and with little to no communication. need advice how to do this one
Learning to die to myself daily and actively put her before me is hard. I could probably sabotage any future relationships she may have with her secrets, but also any chance of reconciliation. Keeping peace and not being critical is the lesson here.
my spouse strunggle with financial difficulty by which she open up. I cant help or gave advice to her but I understand how she felt. The heaviness that need to be prayed for.
ok well today was a step in the right direction. for a breef moment my wife looked at me wiht love in her eyes. and now she dismisse it... i wil keep on and on untill i have won her haert over again... only God can help me now
I've been practically begging my husband for any kind of intimacy it doesn't necessarily have to be sex.e hell if you're not going to love me the way I need to be loved then I know somebody elwho will.
My husband has a lot of resentment and anger towards me for things I've done to him before we were married over 20 years ago and I don't know how to fix it💔
long time trial... trying very hard to stay honed into his needs and undistracted, but I always seem to fail. he no longer hears my side of things or asks for my "why", just dismisses it, says he doesn't care and refuses to listen or hear me finish.
Talked and listen to my wife, we had honest conversations, however she still feels limited love for me left, which makes it hard for me to accept, as my love for her are endless.. Xx ❤️
I did try to speak to him but he chose to be quite and not talk to me at all but we did braai together and eat together
This is an important one for me. I spent months not truly listening to her and I almost lost the most important parts of my life. I think she knows she is heard and protected daily now I pray we can heal
doing the best I can. I'm trying to open ways for her to talk to me but she is being very closed to me and rightfully so. please pray for me to have God soften her heart towards me even if it is undeserved. -Paul Adams
I'm divorced and trying to have an intimate conversation seems like a near to impossible task.. she talks to me as little as possible and when I do call it's quick answers and even quicker to hangup. prayer for an opportunity would be appreciated.
I'm struggling to find out how I can accomplish this by growing, I feel like I already listen and make my husband feel heard and safe but I don't want to just pass it by. open to any input.
I have tried to talk to my wife but I know she is still mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me. I have just been checking on her because of the weather but I feel she thinks I'm just trying to bother her
this day was harder to discuss. I attempted to do what I think the purpose of this dare was but received little feedback
Tried to do ended up in a huge argument. She wants me to move out after the holidays. Says she's not changing her mind! im done with this challenge.
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Definitely try not to think like that, in a marriage while I understand your frustration, "the somebody who will"shouldn't even be a thought. You are married, stand strong and get rid of that person. Sit snd talk with your husband, discuss your needs. Pray about this also. Seek God before you seek outside attention from other people. God values marriage tremendously. He doesn't honor extramarital affairs. With that being said, I do hope that this dare helps to develop you in the areas you need and him vice versa. Definitely remove any hindrances to yall being able to work it out. Pray for your spouse pray for yourself. Put God as the center.