The Lovedare

15 - Love is honourable
1 Peter 3 vs 7 : Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

 

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I am attempting to honor her time and effort by picking up more work at home. So far I have let her fall behind on "her chores" and not helped her. That is not honourable. A small thing, but I hope she will notice.



Its been challenging day as I now know she wants to test my love for her. Hence I decided to Ask her for a Date



I am ending this challenge now it seems to be making things worse for me I looked back on the challenges I completed and noticed I been coming off like a creepy stalker type and that's not me.



i just want to give up on this dare.... my wife just issued me a cort order for maintanace. my haert is broken as i see all of this unraffel. i will keep on my knees and pray to god for shalvastion



Its getting harder and harder when there seem to be no change. i don't want to quit but its hard dealing with someone who don't even want to talk about saving the marriage.



Husband says he wants to work on us but has developed strong friendship with a girl 17 years younger.He says feelings there.He agreed to end it but always talks to her after a fight, Then told me 2 bad he will be friends with her.She makes him happy



A lot of these I have not been doing because we don't get along like we should but for some reason yesterday I did the dare completely. I still pray about everything and know that God has complete control and can save and fix my marriage.



her back has ben killing her today so i went and got some ointment and a massager.. im trying for our future financially its hard to save but i dont like seeing her in pain...



Our marriage had its problems for awhile. she almost told me she wanted to quit. a couple days later said she would try. she doesn't want any intimacy at all. it's so hard laying next to her.

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Remember intimacy is more mental than physical. Keep communicating and honoring her that can definitely change. With that being said both of yall through prayer and petition lean on God for the strength to see each others point of views respectfully. Godbless!


I posted I couldn't do this challenge but it was for the Day 14 challenge.



i do this every day and it seems not to help. i need prayers please

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Keep pushing, remember this is to change you not her. Keep praying and asking for strength and grace to persevere. Develop that relationship with the Father so you may be able to also keep him at the center of your relationships.


Her and the kids stayed at her parents last. i stayed home and wrapped all the presents for the kids and i got her some presents as well. she gave me a big hug and thanked me for them. first time weve had physical contact in over 2 weeks



Her and the kids stayed at her parents last. i stayed home and wrapped all the presents for the kids and i got her some presents as well. she gave me a big hug and thanked me for them. first time weve had physical contact in over 2 weeks.

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Awesome Merry Christmas guys. Keep up the great work keep praying and keep pushing through. Amen!


This challange is really hard, i try my best to honor her but all i get is she is sitting hole time on her phone. We can't talk about anything and its going on day by day. I pray that God can turn her hart and life around

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He will pray God works on you and gives you situations that develop in to interesting conversations. See of she is even will ing to do a challenge of no phones during family time. You could also maybe offer her a date and make a no phone rule. That way you guys can both truly connect. Definitely pray that you guys can communicate better.


I am struggling the last few days/dares. What are some ways you honor your spouse?

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Agrees with Colby. Do something pleasant and unexpected.
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Do something you know they need without asking or looking for selfish gain. Also pray for your spouse as well.


Being very tough, he has been away and I have been stressing about him falling into temptation. For today, I repacked his cupboard. I am praying so hard that this is going to save our marriage

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Great advice Janine I second that and you've helped me also. Definitely start doubting your doubts. Amen!
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Pray for him, but just a note. An overactive mind is the work if Satan. One word of advice is to start "doubting your doubts". I will pray for you


i enjoy doing the love dares to spice up my relationship .

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you don't need to be having trouble to make your relationship more intimate!! God bless you and your partner. Always keep God at center


Listen to hear, looking to learn, understanding my wife and her feelings daily. Never respond in anger, this are my promise to my beautiful wife, and God! ❤️

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God bless you always


Took.her food to work when she really wanted a certain type of food.

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Love hearing this. Prayers sent


Trying to honour my wife daily. She is an incredible woman who made a mistake I'm still struggling to forgive her daily. We recently found God and both are trying to leave the past in the past. God WILL heal our hearts.

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God will heal your hearts.. keep praying and showing grace.


So I sent him this text being the fact he has been busy with mowing lawns and getting his business going.

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Words of praise are often so hard to say. Especially in marriage, singe the other person inevitably hurts you through the years. Keep this up, a simple; i appreciate you working so hard for us. When all this start-up work is done, you'll look back and be glad you put in the work to have a business of your own. I miss you when you're gone, but I love that you are so hard working and you don't suffer from entitlement.
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No matter what you have always had my back. I hope you know I will always be there for you too. Through thick and thin, ups and downs I'll always be behind you to support you in everything you do. It is the most honorable thing that I can think of.


this has been so hard with no success, today God answered a small prayer and I am able to give her a ride to go pick some stuff. this is the most communication we've had since the divorce!

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super happy for you, Paul!
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update: the ride went great, so great she asked me to help her with some stuff around the house before I left for work. I knew I was going to be late for work if I did... so I was late for work because this is far more important! when I left I gave my daughters a kiss good bye and said by hun to her she said ok bye and leaned in for a kiss! I actually jumped back in surprise and I'm kinda glad I did because if we would have kissed I think she would be less likely to ask me back for help worried that her feelings might come back. anyway, when I left I said I love you hun and she said ok then paused and said I love you to. thank God for little miracles because I was beginning to wait for this 40 days to be over so I could start to let go. I needed this and God provided! I haven't been this happy in a long time!!!


I do this anyway



we are not together in person but in spirit love never fails God knows what he is doing



This hard since we aren't living together. I did text her to check on her because of the weather today. I just wanted her to be safe. I try to give her the space she wants and needs but it's hard for me. I just miss her so much



It's so difficult to do this dare, how can you honor your wife when is start to swear and curse on you, after all the cooking, washing, cleaning and looking after our son, she cannot even acknowledge or appreciate.

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you have to do it as if you are doing it unto the Lord not her but for you and him. he will deal with her.
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try praying for your wife and I will be praying for you and your family


brought him breakfast and surprised him today. going to not let my fear and anxiety of all that happened effect our communication today!



done. Shes been feeling under the weather and a bit fussy. I honoured her by listening to what she was actually saying instead of being offended and quick to defend myself or jump into a argument.



Unfortunately, I am tapping out at day 15. been giving it my all. Just can't continue the rejection and the hurt that comes with this. wish you guys the best.

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Hi, please give it another go. im sure that Jesus felt the same and wanted to give up on us as his children aswell, but through his love and patience he finds it in his heart to keep going. We always reject and hurt him, sin and justifying our selfes saying Oh God but we are only human. God made us and he kniws our limits. Be sure that when the time is right he will give you what you need to go forward. please dont stop, try once more even if you start from the beginning. +27815882228 my number and i promise i will pray for you also.


i asked my husband what I could do for this- he told me nothing. It's too late. He doesn't believe our marriage can be fixed. He doesn'y believe we can work through this or that we belong together- after 1 year of marriage.



I agree that it is not hard to hold doors or fold clothes. What is hard is really honoring someone more than yourself. Husbands are called to uplift their wives so they my be free of blemish. Wives are to respect their husbands.

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Both require self sacrifice and only through Jesus's example can we attempt to become one flesh.


It is not hard to show or do any of it. The hardest part is to have faith and believe that all is not in vain. In God I will trust